The ill feelings many harbor toward the holidays could be traced to the season's increasingly commercial nature. Steeped more in the materialistic than in the true meaning behind these special days, the holiday season and its advertisements now come as early as October, leaving many to question just what drives the season.

Deeper sentiments are often lost in the shuffle as we attend events, purchase gifts, and send out cards. But they don't have to. This year try to slow down and create some thought-provoking traditions that can be passed down through the generations.

• Practice patience and tolerance: The busy holiday season, full of traffic jams and additional pedestrians, can make a commute or trip to the store more stressful. Rather than lash out, stay focused and patient and try to view the plus sides of these busy days.
  

• Help others: Volunteering time or making financial donations can brighten someone's day during the holidays. In fact, you may feel so good doing so that you make it a year-round activity.
  

• Choose meaningful gifts: Give a gift that suits a recipient's interest. It's not about how much you've spent, but rather that you understand what the person can really use and appreciate. 
  

• Make it a family affair: No matter what you do this holiday season — from decorating the house to preparing the holiday meal — get as many family members involved as possible. Having the kids participate and experience traditions can help ensure the traditions pass down from generation to generation.
  

• Learn about other religions: Take the opportunity to share in the celebrations of friends or family who practice different faiths. Discover what traditions they employ and see if you can incorporate some of them into your own holiday celebrations.
  

• Don't make it all pomp and circumstance: Over-the-top decorations certainly will put all eyes on your home, but is that really what the holidays are all about? Instead of spending money on showing up your neighbors with a dizzying lights display, put that money toward a neighborhood party where all the neighbors can mingle.
  

• Put less emphasis on gift-giving: It's perfectly reasonable to want to give gifts to those you love — and by all means, do. However, in celebrating, stress the importance of family togetherness, faith, and the true meaning behind each holiday. Don't make it only a countdown to tearing open presents.